Coping With Loss During the Holidays


When someone that you’ve cherished, appreciated, and loved passes away, it can leave behind a large hole that seemingly cannot be filled.

Lucille Rosetti created TheBereaved.org as a means of sharing tools to help people through the grief process. Having lost some of the people closest to her, she understands what it’s like, and how it can be an emotional roller coaster that doesn’t always seem to make sense.

When someone that you’ve cherished, appreciated, and loved passes away, it can leave behind a large hole that seemingly cannot be filled. All that you can do is find ways to cope. By spending time with family and treating yourself well, you’ll be able to start to feel better after your loss. The following tips may help you mend what was lost.

Spending Time With Family

One of the best ways to help yourself deal with the loss of a loved one is to spend time with your family. Talking to those that love and support you will help remind you that you aren’t alone. Grief.com put together a great dos and don’ts list to help guide you during the holidays. For example, don’t overdo it. Forcing yourself to go out when you feel more comfortable staying in won’t help; it will only make you angry toward whomever you encounter.

When you’re with your family, you should participate in activities to get your mind off of your loss. Go out with your family to look at holiday lights or help them decide which holiday movie to watch. Be sure to celebrate traditions that you do every year while creating new ones. Old traditions will remind you of the fun experiences from the past, while new ones will push you forward and give you something to look forward to next year.

Even though you may be enjoying your time with your family during the holidays, you’ll want to know your limit. If you think that you may start to feel overwhelmed, plan an exit strategy so that you can leave without feeling pressured to stay. Some other helpful tips are staying off social media and packing a “sanity pack,” which is a bag filled with music, books, DVDs, food, and anything else that can help you relax.

Taking Care of Yourself

Although there are probably a million things on your plate to deal with after a loved one passes away, it is extremely important to take time for yourself every day. Taking care of yourself will help you get up every morning and go to work, care for children, and do all the activities in your daily routine.

The most important first step toward taking care of yourself is getting enough sleep. During times of grief, many people either feel as though they need to sleep more or have a hard time sleeping at all. If you’re feeling sleepy, it is probably due to the stress and shock of your loss, and it is best to give in to it. Feeling tired is your body’s way of telling you to get some rest. On the other hand, if you find yourself unable to sleep, do your best to improve this by avoiding products with caffeine during the day, and make sure that your bedroom is quiet at night.

Eating well is something else you should pay attention to while grieving. You may find that you have a loss of appetite after losing a loved one, but even though your brain may be saying that you don’t have the time or energy to cook for yourself, your body will be begging you to reconsider. You may also find yourself overeating, which can sometimes be known as comfort eating.

There is no surefire way to deal with grief after losing a loved one. The best ways to pick yourself back up after the loss of a loved one is to surround yourself with family and friends and to take care of yourself, so that you can work toward healing the hole your loved one left behind.

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